Mastering The Art Of Aloneness
Filed under: eOmega.com, Jennifer Hudson, licious, Robin Thicke, Self Help Articles, Self-Esteem, The New Licious, The Omega Institute Author: LiciousHEY NEW LICIOUS FAMILY!!!!! I'm sorry that I haven't been posting and writing a lot, but things have been EXTREMELY busy lately. I'll be taking a couple months off of work in order to tend to myself, so I'll definitely be writing on here daily starting next week. I received this article in my e-mail today and thought it would be something interesting to post here. I hope that it blesses and enlightens you the way that it did me!
Here's a little sidenote: I got good news for a lot of my clients and friends, which is ALWAYS good news for me. A couple of my clients were offered spots on t.v. shows over the past couple weeks!! I'll disclose which clients and which shows just as soon as I get the go ahead from the networks. Also, look for Solomon Wise's (AKA Mr. Wise from VH1's I Love New York 2) new book of poetry COMING SOON! And, last but not least, remember that tickets for JENNIFER HUDSON's upcoming tour are ON SALE!!! The tour also features Robin Thicke so I'm SURE you don't want to miss that. You can visit Jennifer's My Space page for details (MySpace.com/JenniferHudson.)
Have an EXCEPTIONAL rest of the week! Enjoy the article below!
Americans now spend half of their adult lives outside of marriage, and fewer than half of all households consist of married couples. These are major shifts that have been brewing for decades, yet people's attitudes about being alone have changed remarkably little during those years.
Aloneness is still associated with a variety of negative emotions. At the start of the Mastering the Art of Aloneness workshop, I ask participants what they think of when they hear the word "aloneness." I hear the same responses over and over. "Lonely." "Unwanted." "Afraid." It's no surprise that people think of aloneness as a negative state to avoid rather than embrace. From early childhood, we're conditioned to associate aloneness as something to pity, fear, or feel ashamed of.
Mastering the art of aloneness doesn't mean foregoing the love and support of others. It means living a life in which you feel whole and happy; a life in which you can take care of yourself emotionally and financially. It involves reframing aloneness as an opportunity to develop the self-awareness, life skills, and emotional intelligence needed to live a full, gratifying life—whether you're living it alone or with someone else.
As you embrace your aloneness and engage in new behaviors, you will create new results in every aspect of your life. Below are a few of many action steps you can take to strengthen your relationship with yourself and use the state of "aloneness" as an opportunity to develop greater self esteem, personal fulfillment, and financial security.
Learn about and develop who you are: Imagine what life would be like if we all put as much energy into developing a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves as we do in our relationships with others. Personal development work (coaching, workshops, therapy, etc.) allows you to better understand your strengths and passions, the influences that have shaped who you've become, and to live your life by deliberation versus by default.
* Develop an inner support system: Deploy stress-reducing strategies such as getting enough sleep and exercise, meditating, scheduling leisure activities, extending compassion to yourself through supportive "self talk" ("great job!", "you're magnificent!", etc.), and by maintaining a diet that supports your physical and emotional well-being.
* Develop an outer support system: Build friendships with people who support who you really are, and utilize external resources to help you achieve your greatest potential (a holistic physician, nutritionist, fitness trainer, life coach, etc.).
* Take financial control: Make a list of your monthly expenses and income. If you're living beyond your means, you either need to alter your lifestyle or develop an action plan for earning the money you need to support it.
* Do work that you love and at which you excel: The smaller the gap between who you are in your personal life and who you are at work, the happier you will be. Doing work that's aligned with your strengths and passions makes going to work a joy, versus a daily source of frustration.
* Create and live your ideal life: Write the book you always wanted to write, buy and create the home of your dreams, open your own business, interview for your dream job. Instead of waiting for someone else to provide the life conditions to which you aspire, identify and act upon the steps needed to bring them to fruition.
© 2009 Lauren Mackler all rights reserved
*Life, career, and executive coach Lauren Mackler is the author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life and is featured in Speaking of Success with Jack Canfield and Stephen Covey. Her workshop, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life is being offered at Omega May 29–31, 2009. www.LaurenMackler.com*
*CREDIT: eOmega.org and Lauren Mackler*
Here's a little sidenote: I got good news for a lot of my clients and friends, which is ALWAYS good news for me. A couple of my clients were offered spots on t.v. shows over the past couple weeks!! I'll disclose which clients and which shows just as soon as I get the go ahead from the networks. Also, look for Solomon Wise's (AKA Mr. Wise from VH1's I Love New York 2) new book of poetry COMING SOON! And, last but not least, remember that tickets for JENNIFER HUDSON's upcoming tour are ON SALE!!! The tour also features Robin Thicke so I'm SURE you don't want to miss that. You can visit Jennifer's My Space page for details (MySpace.com/JenniferHudson.)
Have an EXCEPTIONAL rest of the week! Enjoy the article below!
Americans now spend half of their adult lives outside of marriage, and fewer than half of all households consist of married couples. These are major shifts that have been brewing for decades, yet people's attitudes about being alone have changed remarkably little during those years.
Aloneness is still associated with a variety of negative emotions. At the start of the Mastering the Art of Aloneness workshop, I ask participants what they think of when they hear the word "aloneness." I hear the same responses over and over. "Lonely." "Unwanted." "Afraid." It's no surprise that people think of aloneness as a negative state to avoid rather than embrace. From early childhood, we're conditioned to associate aloneness as something to pity, fear, or feel ashamed of.
Mastering the art of aloneness doesn't mean foregoing the love and support of others. It means living a life in which you feel whole and happy; a life in which you can take care of yourself emotionally and financially. It involves reframing aloneness as an opportunity to develop the self-awareness, life skills, and emotional intelligence needed to live a full, gratifying life—whether you're living it alone or with someone else.
As you embrace your aloneness and engage in new behaviors, you will create new results in every aspect of your life. Below are a few of many action steps you can take to strengthen your relationship with yourself and use the state of "aloneness" as an opportunity to develop greater self esteem, personal fulfillment, and financial security.
Learn about and develop who you are: Imagine what life would be like if we all put as much energy into developing a healthy and loving relationship with ourselves as we do in our relationships with others. Personal development work (coaching, workshops, therapy, etc.) allows you to better understand your strengths and passions, the influences that have shaped who you've become, and to live your life by deliberation versus by default.
* Develop an inner support system: Deploy stress-reducing strategies such as getting enough sleep and exercise, meditating, scheduling leisure activities, extending compassion to yourself through supportive "self talk" ("great job!", "you're magnificent!", etc.), and by maintaining a diet that supports your physical and emotional well-being.
* Develop an outer support system: Build friendships with people who support who you really are, and utilize external resources to help you achieve your greatest potential (a holistic physician, nutritionist, fitness trainer, life coach, etc.).
* Take financial control: Make a list of your monthly expenses and income. If you're living beyond your means, you either need to alter your lifestyle or develop an action plan for earning the money you need to support it.
* Do work that you love and at which you excel: The smaller the gap between who you are in your personal life and who you are at work, the happier you will be. Doing work that's aligned with your strengths and passions makes going to work a joy, versus a daily source of frustration.
* Create and live your ideal life: Write the book you always wanted to write, buy and create the home of your dreams, open your own business, interview for your dream job. Instead of waiting for someone else to provide the life conditions to which you aspire, identify and act upon the steps needed to bring them to fruition.
© 2009 Lauren Mackler all rights reserved
*Life, career, and executive coach Lauren Mackler is the author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life and is featured in Speaking of Success with Jack Canfield and Stephen Covey. Her workshop, Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life is being offered at Omega May 29–31, 2009. www.LaurenMackler.com*
*CREDIT: eOmega.org and Lauren Mackler*
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